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Either you are interested or you are not
Obviously she is interested, but that *is* a toughie. Hmmm.jimmy p said:GAR women are CRAZY to understand! The girl i currently like drives me nuts because i can't understand what is going on (as said before, i can't read women). She is very casual around me, but we do arrange to meet up often, and the last time we got drunk we kissed... it's just the VERY CASUAL bit that throws me, like she isn't interested or anything.
True. Or men get the signals backwards. Maybe we could invent a dating stun gun. If a girl likes you she shoots you, leaves no doubt about her intentions.jimmy p said:Anyway, what's this about signals? We are MEN. We don't pick up hints or signals, you have to tell it to us straight otherwise we (or I) just go on oblivious!
I think Rick1138's smashing his coffee cup is adorable.jimmy p said:I like what Monique said...nervous guys are cute. How nervous though??
cookiemonster said:Geez, I can barely keep my eyes open during class. And now I have to look for signals at the same time? You ladies are slavedrivers!
Evo said:Guys, let me give you a tip. Girls are as insecure and nervous as you are, well except for the brain dead barbies, so don't go after them. You would not believe the lengths girls go to trying to get a guy's attention.
One thing I've noticed here on PF is that guys seem to be going after girls that aren't giving them any signals that they are interested. If a girl likes you, you will notice her glancing at you, smiling at you and then looking away quickly, she might go out of her way to "walk" by you. Remember though, she's probably just as shy as you are about making the first move.
I hate to say it, but if she doesn't appear to be interested, she probably isn't.
When I was younger if I was talking to a guy I liked and I could tell he liked me, but wasn't asking me out, I'd just say "so where are we going Friday night?". That way, if he wasn't interested, I could always laugh it off as a joke, but it always worked.
Evo said:True. Or men get the signals backwards. Maybe we could invent a dating stun gun. If a girl likes you she shoots you, leaves no doubt about her intentions.
Evo said:One thing I've noticed here on PF is that guys seem to be going after girls that aren't giving them any signals that they are interested. If a girl likes you, you will notice her glancing at you, smiling at you and then looking away quickly, she might go out of her way to "walk" by you. Remember though, she's probably just as shy as you are about making the first move.
I hate to say it, but if she doesn't appear to be interested, she probably isn't.
Evo said:Chrono, what was her reason for saying that she may not be able to make the date?
Have you noticed any change in attitude?
If it has to do with training, she may not have the option to take off, or it could make her look like her job's not important to her. My suggestion, trust her, be understanding, but let her know that you want to see her a different night then. If she's telling the truth (which she probably is) she will appreciate how considerate and understanding you are. You'll get a gold star.Chrono said:Well, her reason was pretty legitamite. She said that she may have to work in training for another job. But then, I don't see why she can't just ask for that night off.
Doesn't sound like she's changed her mind at this point.Chrono said:Any change in attitude? I don't think so. It's kind of hard to tell.
Evo said:If it has to do with training, she may not have the option to take off, or it could make her look like her job's not important to her. My suggestion, trust her, be understanding, but let her know that you want to see her a different night then. If she's telling the truth (which she probably is) she will appreciate how considerate and understanding you are.
Evo said:Keep me informed and I'll give you my 2 cents worth. You though have to be the ultimate judge since you are there and I can only guess.
Did she agree to another date?Chrono said:I did that.
I've known many girls that will not break up with a guy until they have a new one lined up. It's really sad.Polly said:Call me cold blooded, but I honestly can not have any sympathy for any girl who starts seeing guys while on a rebound. It is stupid and unfair to the guy. A total waste of time. Why dragging someone into her own emotional turmoil? She is being selfish.
ShawnD said:Noticing that somebody likes you makes you question why. What's wrong with her if her standards are low enough to want me?
I never said that, are you sure you're reading one of my posts?ShawnD said:Evo, being there all the time will not get him a girl.
The_Professional said:Sounds like low self-esteem to me.
Don't sell yourself short.
Polly said:Exactly. Again call me mean, cold blooded and unkind, but a girl who has dated with a bad boyfriend tells a lot about herself.
You're being realistic and honest. What you said earlier about people not looking beyond their own needs and not caring about what they're doing to others is unfortunately all too true.Polly said:Exactly. Again call me mean, cold blooded and unkind, but a girl who has dated with a bad boyfriend tells a lot about herself.
The_Professional said:Sounds like low self-esteem to me. If you don't think you're worthy enough then why would she think you're worthy?
Polly said:Chrono, I am really sorry I said those nasty things about the lady you fancy. I hope you will forgive me for being so mean and nasty and cold. I am sorry my wisdom only allows me to say this much, I hope I have not done some irreparable harm already. Last of all please again forgive me for everything I said.
Evo said:Did she agree to another date?
jimmy p said:...wish i could get a rebound girl... at least i wouldn't have to go through all the goddamn effort and worry as to whether i am going to make an ass of myself or not...