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Ivan Seeking
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Perhaps the real value in this discussion is in seeing how many women view themselves?
Ivan Seeking said:Perhaps the real value in this discussion is [STRIKE]in seeing how many women view themselves?[/STRIKE] non-existent.
xxChrisxx said:Fixed it for you.
Ivan Seeking said:Perhaps the real value in this discussion is in seeing how many women view [STRIKE]themselves[/STRIKE] their enormous entitlement for their perfect date?
Abscissas said:From what I've observed women usually don't tend to care about looks it mainly comes down to confidence.
Tall, handsome, and insecure? Is it the tall and handsome that's attracting or the confidence? I see a dozen tall, good looking guys a day wandering around alone and acting sketchy or insecure. No telling what's eating them, but women sense it and avoid them.Jamin2112 said:Really? Because all the good-looking women who I know have tall, handsome boyfriends or husbands.
Perhaps I am biased, but I happen to think appearing insecure/not walking about with one's chest and chin high or similar confidence-exuding body language doesn't say anything about their suitability as a long-term partner. Anyone can train themselves to strut or maintain eye contact. I can think of many reasons for this appearance, but none of them are a direct impediment for being a caring partner or responsible father, which is what a lot of older frustrated single women complain about not being able to find. Like Ivan says, their 6th sense hasn't helped them much if more than half of the time they make partner choices they regret. Don't judge a book by its cover.zoobyshoe said:Tall, handsome, and insecure? Is it the tall and handsome that's attracting or the confidence? I see a dozen tall, good looking guys a day wandering around alone and acting sketchy or insecure. No telling what's eating them, but women sense it and avoid them.
Jamin2112 said:Really? Because all the good-looking women who I know have tall, handsome boyfriends or husbands. With of course the exception of ugly rich guys, but we all know that money is the great equalizer for everything in life.
Don't underestimate spidey senses just because you don't have them. Most divorces among people I know of resulted from the couple growing apart in their likes and dislikes as they matured. Spidey senses can't predict the future but they can see the red flags.Ivan Seeking said:Any belief in magic spidey senses is simply self delusion. What we are really talking about is judging someone with no knowledge of who that person really is. It is no different than impulse buying - something that marketing companies target directly in women.
I've heard many stories about women who thought their future husband was a jerk when they first met. And with a 50% divorce rate and 70% of divorces initiated by women, it would seem that their spidey senses were in error at least half of the time when they liked a man enough to fall in love.
jim hardy said:My un-scientific opinion:
I have come to believe women are equipped with a sixth sense.
Women can detect pretense, psychological barriers, and even self deception as if they were scents. The unfortunate ones are attracted to it.
If you find that women scatter when you enter a room, it's probably something inside you and not them. old jim
Because they grew up around these types of people and is all they can find or feel they are worthy of?Bacle2 said:So , what is it then with all the (very many) women who date, or are attracted-to, convicts--convicted murderes, rapists even?
Where did you get this data? Please post it.Still, there seems to be some data agreeing with Jamma2112; it seems it is mostly
rich people who are marrying each other nowadays. The percentage of people marrying
correlates pretty-well with income.
Evo said:Spidey senses can't predict the future but they can see the red flags.
Not all women have spidey senses. (You realize the spidey senses is a bit of humor, right? Some people call it common sense and an ability to notice when things aren't right.Lavabug said:Obviously not, given the number of women with abusive partners and spouses who endure violence sometimes for years before they end up getting murdered.
Evo said:Not all women have spidey senses. (You realize the spidey senses is a bit of humor, right?)
Evo said:Because they grew up around these types of people and is all they can find or feel they are worthy of.
WannabeNewton said:If women only married rich men, then why is evo married to me? BOOM CHECK AND MATE
Jamin2112 said:Really? Because all the good-looking women who I know have tall, handsome boyfriends or husbands. With of course the exception of ugly rich guys, but we all know that money is the great equalizer for everything in life.
Evo said:Because they grew up around these types of people and is all they can find or feel they are worthy of.
Where did you get this data? Please post it.
George Jones said:So, my wife is not good-looking.
Lavabug said:I wasn't sure how serious you were being, but the idea of feminine 6th sense is one I find many people do take very seriously (more than horoscopes).
Yes, it's my own opinion, sorry. That doesn't mean that females from good homes can't be stupid or make bad choices, but it is much easier for a girl that grew up in a bad area/situation to feel that she doesn't deserve or can do better. They grew up accepting it. I see that around here, there are poor small towns around here and those kids tend to stay and marry within their own group (of course there are always exceptions), the girls that grow up in the "gang" areas stay and marry there. I guess looking at years of census records would show if what I've observed is mostly true or false.micromass said:Is this your personal opinion?? I would be very interested if there was some qualified research to answer this question.
Lavabug said:Men also have to put up with unfair gender roles.
micromass said:If I get $100 from you, then your wife will never know (from me) that you said this.
Evo said:Yes, it's my own opinion, sorry. That doesn't mean that females from good homes can't be stupid or make bad choices, but it is much easier for a girl that grew up in a bad area/situation to feel that she doesn't deserve or can do better. They grew up accepting it. I see that around here, there are poor small towns around here and those kids tend to stay and marry within their own group (of course there are always exceptions), the girls that grow up in the "gang" areas stay and marry there. I guess looking at years of census records would show if what I've observed is mostly true or false.
Thanks, interesting, a quick google seems to place the outcome on the extremely low marriage rate among blacks, with some reports claiming as much as 70% unmarried.Bacle2 said:http://economix.blogs.nytimes.com/2012/02/06/marriage-is-for-rich-people/
http://www.brookings.edu/blogs/jobs/posts/2012/02/03-jobs-greenstone-looney
See the subsection "Income , Marriage Rates and Men"
Evo said:Thanks, interesting, a quick google seems to place the outcome on the extremely low marriage rate among blacks, with some reports claiming as much as 70% unmarried.
Here is just a sample article.
http://www.economist.com/news/unite...nd-its-out-wedlock-birth-rate-soaring-fraying
Bacle2 said:So , what is it then with all the (very many) women who date, or are attracted-to, convicts--convicted murderes, rapists even?