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Hi friends, I have a few set of belifs which are blocking me from enjoying what I learn. Before I begin, 8 years before when I was a teen, I had the set of belifs;
1. I can achieve anything. And achieveing things gives pleasure
2. I must understand everything to the pure math level. That gives more pleasure.
3. Not everyone knows everything. I can ask people for questions and get some answers. It is okay to ask dumb questions It gives satisfaction when I understand
These are good in certain ways as they were mostly for pleasure. Unfortunately I developed these newer set of belifs due to other life experiences. Today, I have achieved a stable income from engineering field but I do not have that much thrill to asking questions due to these belifs. I would like to change them. I know those are wrong. Those are:
1. Intelligence is innate. There is no use to work hard to understand something. Either I must achieve something or there is no use( even learning for pleasure ). And achievement only comes if you have intelligence
2. People always know more than me. If I ask questions, people will look down upon me. Those who know or think creatively are higher person and those who do not are lower person.
3. I must understand everything in one go. If other people, say in PF can understand it, that means i am dumb.
4. Its okay to feel jealous when one has more thinking or knowledge than you.
I know these are false and want to correct my belifs to :
1. Learning has to.be done for pleasure. Its okay even of you learn high school textbook again to understand something.
2. You can learn pure math or physics as hobby and learn in span of decades. Keep on understanding why it works. Persistence is the key to satisfaction.
3. Its okay to slowly learn. Its also good to understand and solve problems in high school textbooks. It does not pinch much if I understand. Not everyone knows everything. Ofcourse I may not have brain of Einstein but the process of understandong gives me pleasure. So, I do it.
4. Collaborating with others is good ,be it in Physics forums. Those who learn or think faster can help me to understand better. I have to leave ego behind for learning. What is the use of understanding everything in one shot and not get pleasure out of it? People here or anywhere are mostly helpful
Please help me providing examples from your life or others life so that I am deeply convinced on these newer belifs.
1. I can achieve anything. And achieveing things gives pleasure
2. I must understand everything to the pure math level. That gives more pleasure.
3. Not everyone knows everything. I can ask people for questions and get some answers. It is okay to ask dumb questions It gives satisfaction when I understand
These are good in certain ways as they were mostly for pleasure. Unfortunately I developed these newer set of belifs due to other life experiences. Today, I have achieved a stable income from engineering field but I do not have that much thrill to asking questions due to these belifs. I would like to change them. I know those are wrong. Those are:
1. Intelligence is innate. There is no use to work hard to understand something. Either I must achieve something or there is no use( even learning for pleasure ). And achievement only comes if you have intelligence
2. People always know more than me. If I ask questions, people will look down upon me. Those who know or think creatively are higher person and those who do not are lower person.
3. I must understand everything in one go. If other people, say in PF can understand it, that means i am dumb.
4. Its okay to feel jealous when one has more thinking or knowledge than you.
I know these are false and want to correct my belifs to :
1. Learning has to.be done for pleasure. Its okay even of you learn high school textbook again to understand something.
2. You can learn pure math or physics as hobby and learn in span of decades. Keep on understanding why it works. Persistence is the key to satisfaction.
3. Its okay to slowly learn. Its also good to understand and solve problems in high school textbooks. It does not pinch much if I understand. Not everyone knows everything. Ofcourse I may not have brain of Einstein but the process of understandong gives me pleasure. So, I do it.
4. Collaborating with others is good ,be it in Physics forums. Those who learn or think faster can help me to understand better. I have to leave ego behind for learning. What is the use of understanding everything in one shot and not get pleasure out of it? People here or anywhere are mostly helpful
Please help me providing examples from your life or others life so that I am deeply convinced on these newer belifs.